Value systems, like all concepts, are defined by how they used by us. Our actions demonstrate our values. We are our values.
What are your Values? Write your top 5 down.
As individuals, values discussions tend to be relegated to the same place as strategic plans are in the workplace – left behind as abstractions that don’t really mean anything to us personally. Perhaps this is because history aligns values with how an individual is being socialised, what they “should” think. We often first grapple with values in our childhood homes as we become adults. Rarely thinking again about what our early socialisation to our first family “values” has left us with as guiding principles.
In contrast to this traditional viewpoint, the real power of values is in how they sit within the individual. How they are lived. Research shows that alignment between the individual’s own values and their places of work and home is an important key to happiness. We also know that as children, we learnt our values by watching our parent’s actions, not by their words. This means we may be unaware of how we are living out our childhood values or how our actions do not align with our identified values. If we heard ” we value kindness” but our parents only demonstrated aggression, that misalignment can make finding and defining our own values difficult.
What do you think is valued in your home?
WHAT DO YOU THINK IS VALUES IN YOUR WORKPLACE OR COMMUNITY HUB?
How do you feel about the values you have identified from home or wider community? Do they feel comfortable?
Are they spoken of as values in your contexts or have you identified them as being valued through actions?
How do we Value?
Often, if we sit with the notion of “value” we can attribute some key indicators to pull out what have enacted lived values versus the aspirational and abstract values. Organisations, like families, can struggle with the alignment of values and actions. We know we value something when we put our resources toward it. Resources like time, money, focus, conversation and priorities. As an employee, you may have read a values charter that claims a value of “honesty” however your colleagues and supervisors demonstrate value for “money” more than “honesty” in their actions.
In your own life;
What do you spend the most amount of time doing?
What are the primary conversation topics?
What about arguments? What do you argue the most about?
Answering these questions can tell you a lot about what you really value. Did your answers reflect what you perceived as your values?
Values are powerful as the guide for how we want to be in our world, they tend to be abstract or subjective words like:
Whilst important concepts they can only really be shared through negotiated meaning, meanings that can be enacted. They must be lived in our behaviours and actions, not just used as aspirations if we want to show they are truly valued. This is the time to map out your values and find out how to better live them.
Map your Values now!
Awakened Education provides a range of tailored Values workshops for individuals, families or organisations